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You, Your Difficult Mother and Mother’s Day

by phyllis, May 9, 2012

Perhaps you’re fed up with trying to win your mom’s approval and be accepted for who you are. Or you’re tired of feeling guilty and blaming yourself for the problems. Although we all want an emotionally healthy relationship with our mother, sometimes it’s not possible. Instead of trying to placate mom, understand that the anger is her problem and it’s not your responsibility to manage her emotions. Silence your self doubt. It’s not uncommon for insecurity to be the legacy of a difficult mother. Challenge your negative internal scripts and … Continue reading →

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Difficult Moms and Mother’s Day

by phyllis, May 7, 2012

When we’re young, it’s mom who gratifies our needs and takes care of our hurts. But she is also the first one to impose control and set limits. As we grow, memories of this primary and most powerful relationship are imprinted deep in our psyche. It’s through attachments that we eventually learn who we are and what we feel. Some moms don’t acknowledge their kids as independent and set up coercive relationships with conditions on love and approval. In all stages of life, children with difficult mothers struggle with self … Continue reading →

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Your Relationships with Mom May be Complicated this Mother’s Day

by rosemary, May 4, 2011

Are your plans for Mother’s Day affected by your complex feelings for your aging mother? Your relationship with your mom is likely to be full of twists and turns, evolving over the years as you change. One Sandwiched Boomer ruminates about how she transformed her connections with her mother:When Carol was a teenager, she felt that her strong mother was trying to control her. She looked forward to getting out from under her thumb and moved far away when she married and raised her own family. As her children matured, … Continue reading →

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Nurturing Your Mom on Mother’s Day with More Than Chocolates

by rosemary, May 2, 2011

With Mother’s Day less than a week from now, are you still searching for that perfect gift? Sending flowers, candy and greeting cards are de rigueur for Mom but, as members of the Baby Boomer generation, we recognize that what your aging mother really wants on her special day is to feel nurtured. Sharon’s mother, who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, no longer recognized her. Sharon felt very sad but resigned. “Mom is so sweet, even if she doesn’t know who I am most of the time. It’s now … Continue reading →

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