Whose Couch Is It Anyway?

Whose Couch is it Anyway? Navigating the generation gap between parents and their MillennialsMore than 20 million Millennials are living with their parents today.

Despite the economic recovery, too many are unemployed or underemployed.

As a group, they carry over $1 trillion in student loans.

These are the cold facts behind “Boomerang Kids.” But what’s more important is how your family adjusts when your adult child moves home.

In Whose Couch Is It Anyway, read insightful stories about 5 different families and how they find solutions for living with a Boomerang Kid. You’ll learn how to:

  • Communicate openly in family meetings
  • Negotiate expectations and responsibilities
  • Compromise and resolve conflicts
  • Respect limits within the family
  • Create a budget and an exit plan

Dr. Phyllis Goldberg and Dr. Rosemary Lichtman are coaches who bring over thirty years of experience to the pressing challenges of families in flux. When you read Whose Couch Is It Anyway, you’ll find practical tips that speak directly to you.

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Noted academics, authors and parents of Millennials have found counsel and comfort in the book, and so will you.


Just as you’re ready to kick up your heels with the newfound freedom of an empty nest, it fills up again, this time with a full-fledged adult––or someone who’s supposed to be. Whose Couch Is It Anyway provides great solutions, clearly and cleverly told. Blissfully free of psychological jargon, it just has answers.

AR Taylor, Sex, Rain and Cold Fusion

As the mother of millennial children, torn between wanting them to live at home again and wanting to help them prosper in the new world order, I found the case studies in Whose Couch Is It Anyway refreshingly authentic. Lichtman and Goldberg offer insight into the universal condition of parenthood and provide practical solutions for how to move forward with purpose.

Anne Kreamer, Risk/Reward: Why Intelligent Leaps and Daring
Choices Are The Best Career Moves You Can Make

This valuable book is full of warmth, insight, and helpful advice on managing the inevitable stressors that arise when adult children move back home. The authors’ wisdom and experience come through on every page.

Shelley Taylor, Ph.D., The Tending Instinct: How Nurturing is Essential to
Who We Are and How We Live

Whose Couch Is It Anyway? Moving your Millennial is a clear, fast read with lots of good practical information. Great for individuals whose adult kids are moving home, but also an excellent source of case studies for teaching professional courses.

Ruth Nemzoff, Ed.D., Don’t Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster
Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Children

This important book addresses a key inter-generational issue with wisdom, common sense, and compassion…a must-read for anybody who longs to put their individual issues into larger societal, generational and psychological context and be gently and efficiently guided to practical, proven solutions.

Carol Orsborn, Ph.D., Fierce with Age: Chasing God and
Squirrels in Brooklyn

In the stories of five families challenged by their Millennials, this is counseling at its best: smart, empathic, and supportive. We learn how to help our kids but also ourselves – and at home with a cup of coffee for just the cost of a book. Goldberg and Lichtman balance empathy with reality and listening with suggesting. This is a wise book for any woman dealing with family transition issues. And isn’t that all of us?

Susan Abel Lieberman, Ph.D., Death, Dying and Dessert:
Reflections on 20 Questions About Dying

The case studies of Whose Couch Is It Anyway open windows on the inner workings of five families navigating the gulf between generations. You’ll find yourself in more than one of these unfolding stories and welcome their specific tools for parenting. This is a powerful and much-needed book to keep as both reference and reminder of how—with hard personal work, introspection and reflection—families can change.

Cyma Shapiro, The Zen of Midlife Mothering

Terrific and accessible approach. These dramatic character studies are based on current cases and easily digested by a TV savvy audience. They present disturbing but compelling human stories to learn from or to measure against, and through it all, refreshing observations about today’s mother/child relationships.

Larry Mollin, Executive Producer of Beverly Hills, 90210

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