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Disconnect for Your Own Good

by phyllis, November 6, 2013

In this digital age, technological distractions have taken the place of uninterrupted quiet time. More and more we deprive ourselves of opportunities to disconnect. How about clearing your head and making room for yourself? Take a long walk and let your mind wander. Your internal space will change as you transition from high stress to the welcome awe-inspiring beauty of nature. The shift toward a more peaceful awareness will occur organically. And the silence can be loud enough to awaken your internal voice. Think about your negative feelings and what triggers … Continue reading →

Posted in adult children, stress, well-being, your self | Tagged bullying, digital age, disconnect, high stress, negative feelings, self doubt, social media, technology | 2 Comments

Halloween: Practical Magic for the Sandwich Generation

by phyllis, October 29, 2013

Masks of wizened witches with warts remind us that Halloween is around the corner. And their facial expressions reflect the emotions of some women in the Sandwich Generation – upset, misunderstood, frantic. If that happens to be how you feel, now is the time to cast a spell on your own behalf. As your kids grow up and your parents grow older, the roles in your family inevitably change. Remember what those relationships were like before the massive shakeup? You used to be the one who set the rules but now that … Continue reading →

Posted in sandwich generation, your self | Tagged daughter, family relationships, goals, Halloween, husband, mother, Sandwich Generation, son, witches | Leave a comment

Four Good Reasons to Keep a Journal

by phyllis, October 23, 2013

For my tenth birthday I received a treasured gift, a diary with a lock. Even at that young age, it was clear that the key would keep my thoughts and feelings protected. Journaling can be a powerful life tool to change your mind and habits. So if you don’t have a safe place to explore your hopes, fears and dreams, why not try it? And here are four good reasons why: Reduce stress. Writing about events that upset you can accelerate your coming to terms with them. When you express … Continue reading →

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Postpartum Mental Illness

by phyllis, October 11, 2013

Last week, after crashing into a barrier at the White House, injuring an officer and starting a high-speed car chase through the heart of Washington, a 34-year single mom was shot to death. Her 13-month old daughter in the car avoided physical injury and was taken into protective custody. This incident took place in a city already distressed over the government shutdown and a shooting in the Capitol whereby a gunman killed 12 people a couple of weeks ago. News stories like the Washington Naval Yard rampage have become too … Continue reading →