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The Process of Living and Dying

Yesterday Susan Levin talked learning from her hairstylist. Today she gives some tips about how to help an ill parent through the process of dying: • Be clear about your parent’s death wishes. • Give them information (enter key words and learn that the web, in general, and the Hospice of Santa Barbara (http://www.hospiceofsantabarbara.org/) and Visiting Nurse and Hospice Care (http://www.vnhcsb.org/) sites, in particular, are packed with useful information). • Let them make their own life decisions provided they have the mental faculties to do so. • Get all affairs … Continue reading

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Learning from Friends

We are happy to publish some thoughts from Susan Levin this week. Her website, www.50somethinginfo.com is full of information for our 50-something cohort. Many of us are Sandwiched Boomers, caring for our aging parents as well as our children. Here’s how Susan begins her story: “Some people go to their hair stylist to get their hair cut. I go for two reasons: one the obvious, to let Lynn Hudson work her magic on my unruly locks; and, two, to get a hearty dose of her common sense and compassion. About … Continue reading

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Sandwiched Boomers Re-examine Marriage

As Sandwiched Boomers with demanding family responsibilities, you have a tough balancing act. You’re attending to your kids, parents and personal needs while still trying to nurture your marriage. If your kids are teenagers you know they still need you, but not in the same way. Your role is different and you’re left trying to adjust to changes in your identity. Or perhaps you have greater commitments now that either your parents or in-laws are older and need more help. There may be conflict about how to find the time … Continue reading

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As we come to the end of the holiday week, hold on to the feelings that come from sharing good times with family and friends. And take in some final thoughts about how to care for yourself in tough times. As Sandwiched Boomers, you may be wondering how you will pay college tuition for your children, help your parents on a fixed income and ever be able to retire. But while you can’t always control what happens, you can control how you deal with it. Your response to the financial … Continue reading

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