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Small talk is not about size

by rosemary, August 21, 2013

Now that summer vacations are drawing to a close and you’re beginning to schedule fall activities, are you ready for the get-togethers coming up? When we were younger it seemed so much easier to chat with each other. But now it can be complicated to assess the impression we create when we’re speaking with new acquaintances. Here are some tips to help you make the most of your meetings with new friends and coworkers: Develop conversational intelligence. Beginning a conversation usually means finding a common thread to discuss, so you’ll … Continue reading →

Posted in well-being, your self | Tagged confidence, conversation, coworkers, friends, listen, posture, power, small talk, social interactions, space, stress | Leave a comment

Positive Effects of Negativity

by rosemary, August 8, 2013

I was having dinner the other night with a friend who is having a tough time as she goes through a very difficult break-up and I wondered, with all the emphasis in Positive Psychology on resilience and optimism, are we being unrealistic about our abilities to bounce back after a crisis? And is there actually some real value in being unhappy sometimes? Immersed as we are in the ‘dog days of summer’ it might seem like the wrong time to look at such heavy and pessimistic issues, but let’s give … Continue reading →

Posted in stress, well-being, your self | Tagged break up, challenges, change, crisis, death, divorce, emotions, job loss, loss, negativity, optimism, pessimism, positive psychology, recovery, resilience, survive, unhappiness | 2 Comments

Reflecting on what truly matters

by rosemary, July 25, 2013

We tell our children that you can learn more from failure than from success. But do we actually believe that ourselves? What do we do after we’ve failed to reach a goal we set for ourselves? This week, I’ve had a chance to reflect on these questions myself in a very personal way. On Sunday, I was unable to finish the Moonwalk half marathon – fainting from the heat and humidity after mile 12 of the 13.1 – and I experienced many feelings in the aftermath. Some I expected – … Continue reading →

Posted in well-being, your self | Tagged breast cancer, camaraderie, defeat, emotions, failure, family, friends, goals, gratitude, marathon, MoonWalk, positive, success, support, volunteer, walk | Leave a comment

Picking Yourself Up After A Defeat

by rosemary, July 23, 2013

This weekend I remembered the tag line of that iconic old TV sports show, Wide World of Sports – “the thrill of victory, the agony of defeat” – as I sat on the ground just a mile or so shy of my goal. I had planned to power walk a half-marathon overnight with Phyllis but my plan was derailed just after 3:00 a.m. The Moonwalk raised funds for breast cancer screening and I still met that goal. But I fainted from the overwhelming heat and humidity in New York City … Continue reading →