As you look forward to the New Year, you may decide not to make any resolutions for 2019. According to conventional wisdom, they usually don’t work anyway.
If you’re the Mom of a Millennial who has boomeranged back home, try to accept the status quo for now. Of course, you’re reluctant to turn your new office or crafts corner back into a bedroom. But if your kidult has huge student loans and a job that can’t pay the rent, living at home may be the best option. For lots of practical tips CLICK HERE.
Having unrealistic expectations may be the greatest obstacle to positive change for everyone in the family. Instead, try to provide guidance as your offspring go about creating short-term objectives that will help them determine and then reach their long-term goals:
Be adaptable. Although unemployment numbers are low today, Millennials are still struggling to make their way in the labor force. Suggest that they reconnect with mentors, apply for internships, or do volunteer work as a step toward finding their passion and the career they were meant to have.
Track progress. Journaling is an excellent way to stay grounded and motivated. Encourage your adultolescents to make a list of the obstacles and stumbling blocks they’re facing. Then it will be easier to identify their internal strengths and explore external resources that can help them move ahead. Through writing regularly in a journal, they’ll be more focused as they release mental toxins and deepen their emotional awareness.
Give it time. Be patient and supportive as boomerang kids open up to all the new possibilities. It takes time to discover what they need or want and adjust to the demands that change creates. But discuss a general end date – most surveys indicate that living back home should not exceed one year.
Start thinking that, before too long, you’ll be re-feathering your empty nest. As your Millennial moves forward and you commit to your own changes, you don’t have to do it alone. We invite you to visit Her Mentor Center anytime – read our blog posts and search through the resources as you LEARN new strategies.