You may consider this generation’s long transition into adulthood a gift, with extra family time and connection. But it’s also necessary to put ground rules in place and set objectives so they’re working toward greater independence.
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Sometimes it feels like the only constant is change. As your kidults begin a new chapter in college and then sometimes move back home again, it’s not easy to integrate the complex emotions. Moms often feel guilty or are blamed for coddling instead of cutting the cord. And the re-feathered nest brings it’s own set of circumstances as you deal with triangulations in the family.
Perhaps you’re under pressure and are looking for an anchor in these rough waters. The impact of the Great Recession still lingers. And your boomerang kids may be down on their luck or coasting along on your support. Have a family meeting to assess the situation. Hear them out as you try to understand their point of view. Then put them in charge of their own lives. A little ‘tough love’ can go a long way.
If you’ve assumed your old role of taking care of the family, shift the focus and begin to think about yourself. Figure out how your boomerang kids can contribute to the household chores, finances, and other responsibilities. They need to stand on their own feet. And it’s time for you to ignite old passions or follow your dreams.