Whether you’re a member of the sandwich generation or not, changes in your love relationship are like any personal change – to be successful long term, you need a clear idea of what you want and a good reason to keep going. What follows are some final tips to help you achieve your 2010 relationship goals:
Celebrate good times. Respond enthusiastically when something positive happens to your partner. Make the most of it by asking relevant questions and being complimentary. Studies have found that celebrating positive events predicts greater relationship satisfaction than commiserating over negative ones.
Stay engaged. It’s easy to get stuck in a routine and not notice the changes going on around you. Paying attention to what’s different about your partner may surprise you, as well as increase your attraction, motivation and connection.
Bring out the best in each other. Studies show that when partners more closely resemble each other’s ideal selves, they fare better as a couple. List your personal goals and the qualities you like most in your significant other. Chances are there’s an overlap between the self you aspire to and the aspects of your partner that you appreciate the most.
Although improving your partnership may seem overwhelming sometimes, it’s really the little things that matter. Expensive gifts and exotic trips are nice, but they’re not as meaningful in the long run as simple acts of gratitude and kindness. Long after you’ve opened the last present or downloaded the vacation photos, that reservoir of goodwill will keep nourishing your relationship. Commit to sustaining your 2010 love resolutions – you won’t regret it.