You may have sent flowers, candy and greeting cards to your mom on Mother’s Day but, as Sandwiched Boomers, we recognize that what aging mothers really want every day of the year is to feel nurtured.
Ellie’s mother, who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, no longer recognized her. Ellie felt very sad but resigned. “Mom is so sweet, even if she doesn’t know who I am most of the time. It’s now like I’m her mom and I feel good being able to help her when I can. I just want to get her the best care possible.” Ellie’s attitude helps her understand the changes in her mother and plan what to do now.
Baby Boomers recognize that aging is a natural progression and a normal part of the life cycle. But just as it is difficult to accept your own aging, when you witness your mother regressing, the facts of life provide scant comfort. Acknowledging your mother’s decline in well-being, becomes the first step in your plans for realistic long-term care for her.
Research shows that money, title, or good health has less effect on life satisfaction than strong personal relationships. So now that Mother’s Day is over, make a commitment to do what you can to improve your relationship and give your mom and yourself positive memories. Tune in the rest of this week for six tips to help you get started.