When you dropped your kids off at college, were you the one dragging your heels? This generation of parents has been described as clinging, especially when they refuse to leave the campus. In fact, a number of college administrators have introduced blunt language into orientation schedules, including a specific time to say goodbye. The message is clear: release your anxieties and your adult children to this adventure, and enjoy the ride yourself. The lesson, not taught in the traditional curriculum, is about letting go. Parenting expert, Michelle Borba, gives practical advice for parents of college bound kids.
Some colleges have developed parents-only workshops for those who are intensely involved in their child’s academic career. Liaisons give explicit advice on how to minimize the pain of separation and hovering behaviors. ‘Velcro’ parents may be invited to a reception while the students meet their roommates and begin to settle in. Read more about this in the New York Times.
Does all this feel like a conspiracy to exclude you? After all, it’s almost as big a transition for you as for your kids. But as you say goodbye to your adult kids, learn to say hello to yourself.
Recognize that you may feel ambivalent about this new chapter. Bond with friends as you discuss your situation with those who care about what you’re going through. You’ll discover that you have a lot in common and that they feel the same about their own experiences – this can be validating and comforting.
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