Days after a 7.0 earthquake devastated Port-au-Prince, the capital city of Haiti, family members battled for a proper burial of their loved ones. Time and again, tragedy followed moments of hope. Yet, despite the death and destruction, the people struggled to survive. And hundreds took to the streets, singing and chanting amid huge mounds of rubble – a clear sign of the resilience of the human spirit.
While not in such desperate circumstances, perhaps you too have suffered the death of a loved one. Although you may want the pain to go away, in order to heal you must experience the feelings of loss. First, try to create an inner resource that calms you. Imagine a caring person in your life who comforts you when you’re hurting – you don’t have to be totally alone with these feelings.
If your life seems unnaturally quiet, seek out the support of family and friends as you move into this next part of your life. Take your time and don’t be rushed by others. You know yourself best. Eventually you’ll, once again, do the things you love.
Free yourself from a negative outlook. Although you can’t change what has happened, you can have some control over how you handle it. Face your uncertainty with the most positive attitude you can muster. You may be feeling angry, sad or afraid of what is to come. Recognize that your reactions are normal and common. Face them directly as you work through your feelings.
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