Before their weddings, June brides and grooms may be focused on the ceremony and party – but after the nuptials, they soon wake up to the realities of married life. Amidst the everyday pulls of career, household chores, financial limitations and raising children, there may be little left for each other – in time, energy, or funds. So how do you keep love alive as the years go by?
If you’re celebrating your anniversary this month, here are 5 tips for nurturing your relationship and reconnecting to each other and the joy of your wedding day. When you invest in your partnership, you build a solid foundation to support you through a myriad of challenges you’ll face through the years.
Keep the dialogue going. Talk out misunderstandings before they become full-fledged arguments. Use active listening techniques and practice sending I-messages to keep your conversations civil. Look for ways to cooperate and compromise rather than try to win at all costs. Respect your differences and fight fairly.
Be playful. Schedule a date night alone each week where you can enjoy fun times together. Give compliments freely and cultivate a sense of humor with each other. You’ll be able to share a laugh, even through tough times. Plan adventures that keep you engaged with your spouse.
Apologize and forgive. There will inevitably be conflicts but, even if your partner has hurt you, find a way to let go of your anger and resentment. Genuinely take responsibility for your own mistakes. When you clear the air, you allow for a more positive attitude.
Make time for romance. Being affectionate and intimate will help you remember why you fell in love. Express gratitude for the mature love you’ve developed and don’t take each other for granted. If you find your bonds becoming stale, explore new ways of expressing your sensuality and sexuality together.
Build trust and loyalty. Your commitment to each other provides the support that sustains both of you. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. The confidence you develop from a secure relationship lets you maintain your own space and pursue independent goals outside of the relationship – as well as focus on your shared vision.
Acceptance of your lover’s weaknesses can make the strengths even more attractive. When you’re aware that no one is perfect, it paves the way for celebrating a multitude of anniversaries with you life partner.