Have you heard about the recently published book, The Idle Parent? Helicopter Parents is a hot topic right now. If you think you fit the profile, follow these tips as you shift responsibility from your shoulders to where it now belongs:
Take on a supportive role as you encourage your children to make their own decisions and deal with the natural consequences. Give fewer directions while they’re learning important new problem solving skills. Although they will be faced with many choices, experience is a great teacher.
Resist taking on chores that now should fall to your kids. As much as these may have been a part of your job description for years, it’s now time to pass the baton. Think of it as boot camp. Soon enough they’ll be off to college and, the more competent they are, the more confident they’ll feel.
Focus on their positive qualities and think of reasons to support their evolving ideas. Sit back, relax and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Remember that their job right now is to learn how to be more independent and accountable for their own actions. And that includes working things out for themselves.
Give up old habits of micromanaging. You have to do it sooner or later. When you continue to worry or be upset about what’s going on in their lives, you’re sending your children the message that you don’t trust they can handle situations on their own.
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