Barack Obama is now the presumptive Democratic candidate yet Hillary Clinton has not given up the fight. It feels like a marriage gone wrong. Any relationship therapist would agree that there are two sides to every story – and the reality is usually somewhere in the middle.

There have been inuendos and accusations – from the quality of character to what constitutes a lie – all in the spirit of being judged more worthy of staying in the race and coming out a winner. Initial counseling sessions often begin with “why are you here and what went wrong?” Hillary had the money, the man and the motivation. But she wasn’t prepared for the challenge of someone like Obama who had the message people wanted to hear.

So is Hillary a fighter or a spoiler, having stayed at the party too long? It’s never easy to leave the spotlight, pick up the pieces and move on with your life. But no matter what advice others give you or what support you still have, first you have to be ready to let go of dreams and hopes. And apparently she’s not there yet.