Valentine’s Day is a special time to express romantic love. But it can also put pressure on those who, every other day of the year, are perfectly fine with their single status. You may feel lonely on this day and worried that you don’t have the motivation to do what’s in your best interests.
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When you love your life you’re better able to control how you handle Valentine’s Day. Follow these practical tips and put this one day a year in perspective:
Give yourself an emotional break and watch what happens. With a deep breath, release any negative thoughts you have about not being in a relationship. Actively dispute the notion that you are unworthy or unattractive. Choose an affirmation that rings true for you – I’m fine just the way I am; my life is full of those who care about me – and repeat it out loud, with conviction and often.
Take a step back and trust your instincts. Listening to your inner voice can provide comfort and reassurance about where you are right now. As you recognize your strengths, focus on why you’re happy with who you are and what’s important to you. Be sure that you’re integrating your core values and personal ideals into how you live your life.
Pay attention to the positives in your relationships. Notice who you enjoy spending time with and what about them brings you pleasure. And remember that your personal character and qualities make them want to be your friends. Relax into your friendships as you enjoy fuller and deeper conversations.
Connect often with others. Going out with a group of colleagues can sometimes be more fun than a date. And having support is especially important when you’re feeling down. You can bring more intimacy into your circle of friends. Be willing to reveal your opinion and needs so that others have access to your inner world. And encourage them to do the same with you.
Lower your expectations about today. Actually, there really is no perfect day, so relax. Be realistic and proactive. You can take the lead and make a plan – organize a potluck dinner or a hike in the hills. The wonderful memories you create will last long after the day is over.
Make the most of today. And log on again Wednesday for more tips about how to have less stress around Valentine’s Day.
