If you’re like so many Haitians and have recently suffered the death of a loved one, you can take control of what’s within your reach. It may not be easy, but you have the wisdom to know the difference between what you can manage and what you can’t. Try to get support from family, friends, your spiritual community, a therapist or a bereavement group. Make the decision to ask for help whenever you need it – you don’t have to do it all alone.
Make a public commitment to those who want to see you do well. Tell others about your intentions and create a strong reality that will keep you motivated. Re-establish routine in your life, both at work and with family. As you set new long range goals and short term objectives, commit to a process of change – and then move forward, one small step at a time.
Primarily rely on your own instincts. Believe in what you’re doing to heal yourself. Maintain firm boundaries and talk honestly about how you’re feeling. Realize your hidden internal strength as you trust yourself and look inside for answers. Emotional discomfort can become an opportunity – it serves as an invitation to grow.
Solitude itself provides a chance to emotionally revitalize. Rejuvenate your spirits with whatever works – listen to music that stirs your soul or curl up with a book that engages your fantasies. Learn to feel more positive through regular meditation or yoga practice. Every night, before you go to bed, write affirmations about what is still good in your life. And log on again tomorrow for more tips that can help you begin to heal after loss.
