With Mother’s Day less than a week from now, are you still searching for that perfect gift? Sending flowers, candy and greeting cards are de rigueur for Mom but, as members of the Baby Boomer generation, we recognize that what your aging mother really wants on her special day is to feel nurtured. 
Sharon’s mother, who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, no longer recognized her. Sharon felt very sad but resigned. “Mom is so sweet, even if she doesn’t know who I am most of the time. It’s now like I’m her mom and I feel good being able to help her when I can. I just want to get her the best care possible.” Sharon’s attitude helps her understand the changes in her mother and plan what to do now.
Sandwiched Boomers recognize that aging is a natural progression and a normal part of the life cycle. But just as it is difficult to accept your own aging, when you witness your mother regressing, the facts of life provide scant comfort. Acknowledging your mother’s decline in well-being, becomes the first step in your plans for realistic long-term care for her. This week, as you’re planning for Mother’s Day, we’ve got some tips to help your Mom know you care about her more than just during those 24 hours:
The gift of time is one of the most precious presents that you can give your aging mother. Spend some quality time with her talking and reminiscing. Look through old family photographs and ask her to tell you stories about when she was a young girl. The time you spend with her now will sustain you both.
Make your mom feel more valued by concentrating just on her – plan another date with her for lunch or shopping. When you pay attention to the details, you’ll find you enjoy her company even more. Talk about what you are doing, appreciating and enjoying. Linger awhile in order to make it last.
Research shows that money, title, or good health has less effect on life satisfaction than strong personal relationships. So this Mother’s Day, make a commitment to do what you can to improve your relationship and give your mom and yourself positive memories.
