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A Time for Change

The Jewish New Year celebrates the birthday of the world for all people and Yom Kippur asks us to reflect about our own humanity. During these days of awe we search for answers about how to improve our relationships with those around us. We face and apologize for our moral transgressions against others and grant forgiveness to those who have hurt us. Divisive conflicts and frightening extreme tribalism highlight our need for connections and communal relationships. Amidst the cacophony and sounds of discord, the blast of the shofar is clear … Continue reading

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Breaking the Chains of Domestic Violence

Earlier this year, running back Ray Rice knocked his then fianc√© now wife, Janay Palmer, unconscious. And he received a two game suspension. Much after the fact, NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell commented that failure to adequately address domestic violence should never be repeated. But I’m not holding my breath, because the language of violence has become commonplace in our society. If it’s possible to change the cultural dialogue, the first step is to bring a problem that thrives in secrecy to public attention. Surveillance tools, mobile devices and social media … Continue reading

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Grandparents’ Day and the Grandmother Effect

Last Sunday, for the 35th time since it was instituted, Grandparents’ Day was observed in the United States, honoring 65 million grandparents. In addition to loving their grandkids, grandparents are often responsible for providing childcare and support. A recent survey found that a grandparent regularly cares for nearly one-third of the children under age 5 who have working mothers. And 3 million grandparents are primarily in charge of raising their grandchildren. For me, love is the main commodity I provide to my grandkids and I get it back in multiples. … Continue reading

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Joan and Melissa: Mother/Daughter Bonds

As a daughter, mother and therapist, I can attest to the complexity of these relationships. To some, an extremely close relationship represents bonding, to others enmeshment. According to the media, Joan and Melissa Rivers were not afraid to act out the drama between a mom expecting to have a lot of control and a daughter trying to set some limits. Melissa recalls an argument¬†when she tells her mother that she’s an adult and wants to be respected. And Joan’s retort? “I know about your boundaries and choose not to acknowledge … Continue reading