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Virtual Book Tour with Dr. Ruth Nemzoff

We welcome to our blog today Ruth Nemzoff, the author of Don’t Roll Your Eyes: Making In-Laws into Family and a popular speaker on the topic of parenting adult children and family dynamics. Ruth is a resident scholar at Brandeis University’s Women’s Studies Research Center and you can find her on the web at RuthNemzoff.com. Ruth is also the author of Don’t Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Children. Whether you’re a mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, or out-law, her books will help you gain a new perspective … Continue reading

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Sally Shields Chats with Our Readers

Yesterday, we enjoyed hosting Sally Shields, author of The Daughter-in-Law Rules on our blog. Here are some of our readers’ questions and Sally’s responses. When Anita asked Sally how her mother-in-law reacted to reading about herself in the book, Sally recalled how it affected their relationship: “There are 3 parts to that… first when she found out I was writing the book she said, “I know I can be a B….tch, Sally! I’m a Leo. But we’re a lot a like, you know. Now go write a best-seller, or I’ll … Continue reading

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Mothers-in-Law Step Back

Our focus on the complex role of mother-in-law draws to a close today. We want to leave you with some more suggestions to keep in mind as you work on taking a step back – and taking lots of deep breaths as you do. Change is never easy but it may be especially difficult in this relationship given the complicated emotions and tensions that are percolating just below the surface. As issues boil up, everyone is affected – you, your grown children, their partners, your own spouse. While you can’t … Continue reading

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Mothers-in-Law Change

Another reader of Nourishing Relationships has commented about how difficult the role of mother-in-law is: “As the mother of sons who adored bringing them up, I never realized until they married what difficult issues I’d face. I foolishly thought we would just widen our wonderful circle and they, my daughters-in-law, would join in the dance. I forgot, they had mothers and did not want another one! There’s also the cultural piece, which takes a great deal of work and understanding when two cultures are involved. It is a real challenge, … Continue reading

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