Category Archives: well-being

Grandparents’ Day and the Grandmother Effect

Last Sunday, for the 35th time since it was instituted, Grandparents’ Day was observed in the United States, honoring 65 million grandparents. In addition to loving their grandkids, grandparents are often responsible for providing childcare and support. A recent survey found that a grandparent regularly cares for nearly one-third of the children under age 5 who have working mothers. And 3 million grandparents are primarily in charge of raising their grandchildren. For me, love is the main commodity I provide to my grandkids and I get it back in multiples. … Continue reading

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Joan and Melissa: Mother/Daughter Bonds

As a daughter, mother and therapist, I can attest to the complexity of these relationships. To some, an extremely close relationship represents bonding, to others enmeshment. According to the media, Joan and Melissa Rivers were not afraid to act out the drama between a mom expecting to have a lot of control and a daughter trying to set some limits. Melissa recalls an argument when she tells her mother that she’s an adult and wants to be respected. And Joan’s retort? “I know about your boundaries and choose not to acknowledge … Continue reading

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ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

Social media have often drawn criticism – for their penchant to foster narcissism, time wasting, even bullying – but this past month we’ve seen the generosity, compassion and creativity they can generate. The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge has gone viral on the Internet, attracting a wide range of celebrities, athletes, professionals, students, business people, politicians, and ordinary folks – all dumping a bucket of ice water on their heads. People have made donations to The ALS Association, challenging others to do so as well. In July alone, more than $100 … Continue reading

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Why Technology is OK for Kids

We have just returned from a family vacation in Whistler, Canada.  Some days we took a gondola up the mountain and hiked trails to streams and waterfalls. Others we biked around the countryside to swim in local lakes. With five active grandsons ages 8-13 and their forty-something parents, we had plenty of exercise and physical challenge. Yet whenever we returned from our adventures, the main pull for the boys was their electronic devices. And a typical parental request? Please turn that off and go outside or play a game. I often … Continue reading

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